My story began a little over 10 years ago. That was when I was first told I needed to wait until marriage to have sex. I don't remember ever being told "why" I should wait, I just remember being told to wait "because the BIble said so." Although that is truly a good enough reason, I don't think it satisfied my curiosity as a young teenager who wanted to be wanted. Growing up, I quickly learned that boys and men gave a woman more attention if she was beautiful, and most especially if she flaunted it. Not until I reached my mid-twenties did I realize that this type of attention doesn't last and, most importantly, isn't representative of a man pursuing a woman with pure motives. I was easily caught up in the fairytale of love, mostly from movies like The Notebook (and any other romantic drama), and I started "falling in love" with men who clearly weren't ready to be a husband. I wanted so badly to be passionately kissed in the rain and have a whirlwind romance, just like any other woman I bet. But as a result, my love life began to resemble one of those cheap candles that burns out quicker than you expected and I'd be left heartbroken and weary every time, but ready to move on to the next man. The sad part in all of this is I was lighting these cheap relationship candles AFTER a failed marriage. You'd think that by getting burned once I'd learn my lesson. When I realized I was on a sure path to sorrow and lifelong empty disappointment, I finally went to the one man who could satisfy me and teach me my worth - Jesus.
By our society's standards, I got engaged and married young. I was 19 when he proposed, and 21 when we tied the knot. I had no idea what being a wife meant. I thought that getting married would make our relationship better, not worse. I thought marriage would solve our problems, not reveal them. And most sadly, I wanted to get married to validate the fact that we had had sex during our dating relationship. Marriage did NONE of that which I expected. In fact, it revealed the pathetic truth that our dating relationship had been solely based on our looks and worldly pleasure, not in serving one another and respecting one another, and certainly not centered in Christ (although I tried my best to convince myself that this, too, would be different once we got married). Yes, I loved him, and I believe he loved me, but being in love is never a good enough reason to get married all on its own. To be honest, I believe that our love was based on our physical involvement, more than anything else, and the desperation on my part as a woman to simply be wanted. After getting married, we realized that we didn't even LIKE each other. Many people "fall in love" countless times throughout young adulthood or life, but should you marry each and every one of those people? No. For this reason, it is even more important to guard your heart, mind, soul, and body to help limit the amount of times you give yourself to someone. At some point you will turn up empty like I did.
I just admitted that I'm not a virgin anymore. Anyone could have guessed that after knowing I'd been married once. But in many ways I was impure too. Even when I had reached a point that I became adamant about not getting physically involved with someone when I was single again after my divorce, and after I had one too many friends with benefits, I let myself become emotionally impure (for more on this, read Heather Arnel Paulson's book Emotional Purity). So what does all this mean? Should we lock up our chastity belts and turn off our brains so we can remain pure? Absolutely not. When you try to shut something off and tell yourself you can't have it, it becomes the forbidden fruit and all of a sudden it's even more desirable than before (especially when we have movies, books, and hollywood telling us to live selfishly and do whatever makes us happy at any cost). Many of us can relate this to when we try to go on a diet, or stop eating french fries or candy. When we "can't" have something that we know tastes so good, we become bitter and spiteful and end up indulging even more when we finally get our hands on it. If you desire to hold off on these things, and prepare yourself for a healthy lifelong marriage, then it is imperative that you begin to view sex and physically intimacy (in any form!) as a gift to be opened on your wedding night. It's a reward for later, not a restriction forever.
For Josh and I, we are so looking forward to the gifts that will be waiting for us on our wedding night (you have no idea!!!!). We have managed to keep our clothes on and our hands to ourselves throughout our relationship (we have been together a little over a year and a half now). We used to make out A LOT in the beginning of our relationship, and we have since stopped because of the powerful reactions our bodies were experiencing. We knew that if we continued to make out on such a regular basis, we would be destined for disappointment because our worldly desires would surely take over, and someone's hand would "accidentally" grab something it wasn't supposed to (as if it had a mind of it's own) and we would all of a sudden be laying there naked not knowing what just happened. As ridiculous as this sounds, many Christian couples find themselves in this very situation on a regular basis (I surely did with my ex-husband when we were dating). Let me help you out here. Stop being alone together so much. Stop spending late nights laying down on the couch (or bed!) with each other. Stop using your words to arouse one another. There's no such thing as accidents here. Be intentional about the boundaries and guidelines of your relationship.
I am so grateful to God that I get another chance to do it His way, after more failed attempts than I care to discuss today. After spending so much wasted time worried about all the wrong things, I now find myself so fulfilled by the knowledge that waiting is SO worth it. You can't tell me I don't know what I'm talking about. Trust me, I do. Don't you remember? I was married once, and unwrapped my gift way too soon. There are many things I would do over, and waiting until marriage to unveil my body is one of them. The main one actually. I went from the girl who strutted around at the beach in a micro bikini, to the woman who enjoys the challenge of finding clothing that is modest, yet still fashionable. I went from the girl who teased men with my body and tempted them with my words for the sake of stroking my ego with the attention I'd receive in return, to the girl who speaks friendship and encouragement and chooses to wear a smile instead of a push-up bra. I always thought I was attracted to the bad boy because they seemed to be the only type of guy who was attracted to me. Once I re-evaluated WHY they were attracted to me, I realized the issue was within myself, not them (although they've got issues of their own too of course).
One thing I'm looking forward to is being able to do a follow-up post after Josh and I get married. I'll spare you the details of our future sex life, but I am excited to share the things that made waiting so special. One thing I know for sure is our wedding night will be less about the actual act of sex, and more about being naked for the first time together, seeing each other's bodies for the first time, spending the night in the same bed, waking up to one another (bad breath and all), and giggling with one another like teenagers who've never "done it" before. You see, when you spend so much time getting to know a person on a friendship level, and only being able to express your love for that person by acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, appropriate physical touch, and appropriate gifts, you get to know who they are on a deeper level than any physical or chemical connection can provide. The physical chemistry within marriage will be present simply because the emotional connection has been established throughout the dating relationship, if tended to properly.
If you think about it, even if you had sex once a day for the rest of your life, it's still such a small fraction of the actual time you will be spending with the person you marry. So make sure the emphasis is on your friendship, not your sexual chemistry. Because trust me, if you don't even LIKE the person you're with, chances are you won't have a desire to sleep with them after a certain point, no matter how good looking he or she is. Don't wait until marriage just because someone told you to. Wait until marriage because it will be worth it.
By our society's standards, I got engaged and married young. I was 19 when he proposed, and 21 when we tied the knot. I had no idea what being a wife meant. I thought that getting married would make our relationship better, not worse. I thought marriage would solve our problems, not reveal them. And most sadly, I wanted to get married to validate the fact that we had had sex during our dating relationship. Marriage did NONE of that which I expected. In fact, it revealed the pathetic truth that our dating relationship had been solely based on our looks and worldly pleasure, not in serving one another and respecting one another, and certainly not centered in Christ (although I tried my best to convince myself that this, too, would be different once we got married). Yes, I loved him, and I believe he loved me, but being in love is never a good enough reason to get married all on its own. To be honest, I believe that our love was based on our physical involvement, more than anything else, and the desperation on my part as a woman to simply be wanted. After getting married, we realized that we didn't even LIKE each other. Many people "fall in love" countless times throughout young adulthood or life, but should you marry each and every one of those people? No. For this reason, it is even more important to guard your heart, mind, soul, and body to help limit the amount of times you give yourself to someone. At some point you will turn up empty like I did.
I just admitted that I'm not a virgin anymore. Anyone could have guessed that after knowing I'd been married once. But in many ways I was impure too. Even when I had reached a point that I became adamant about not getting physically involved with someone when I was single again after my divorce, and after I had one too many friends with benefits, I let myself become emotionally impure (for more on this, read Heather Arnel Paulson's book Emotional Purity). So what does all this mean? Should we lock up our chastity belts and turn off our brains so we can remain pure? Absolutely not. When you try to shut something off and tell yourself you can't have it, it becomes the forbidden fruit and all of a sudden it's even more desirable than before (especially when we have movies, books, and hollywood telling us to live selfishly and do whatever makes us happy at any cost). Many of us can relate this to when we try to go on a diet, or stop eating french fries or candy. When we "can't" have something that we know tastes so good, we become bitter and spiteful and end up indulging even more when we finally get our hands on it. If you desire to hold off on these things, and prepare yourself for a healthy lifelong marriage, then it is imperative that you begin to view sex and physically intimacy (in any form!) as a gift to be opened on your wedding night. It's a reward for later, not a restriction forever.
For Josh and I, we are so looking forward to the gifts that will be waiting for us on our wedding night (you have no idea!!!!). We have managed to keep our clothes on and our hands to ourselves throughout our relationship (we have been together a little over a year and a half now). We used to make out A LOT in the beginning of our relationship, and we have since stopped because of the powerful reactions our bodies were experiencing. We knew that if we continued to make out on such a regular basis, we would be destined for disappointment because our worldly desires would surely take over, and someone's hand would "accidentally" grab something it wasn't supposed to (as if it had a mind of it's own) and we would all of a sudden be laying there naked not knowing what just happened. As ridiculous as this sounds, many Christian couples find themselves in this very situation on a regular basis (I surely did with my ex-husband when we were dating). Let me help you out here. Stop being alone together so much. Stop spending late nights laying down on the couch (or bed!) with each other. Stop using your words to arouse one another. There's no such thing as accidents here. Be intentional about the boundaries and guidelines of your relationship.
I am so grateful to God that I get another chance to do it His way, after more failed attempts than I care to discuss today. After spending so much wasted time worried about all the wrong things, I now find myself so fulfilled by the knowledge that waiting is SO worth it. You can't tell me I don't know what I'm talking about. Trust me, I do. Don't you remember? I was married once, and unwrapped my gift way too soon. There are many things I would do over, and waiting until marriage to unveil my body is one of them. The main one actually. I went from the girl who strutted around at the beach in a micro bikini, to the woman who enjoys the challenge of finding clothing that is modest, yet still fashionable. I went from the girl who teased men with my body and tempted them with my words for the sake of stroking my ego with the attention I'd receive in return, to the girl who speaks friendship and encouragement and chooses to wear a smile instead of a push-up bra. I always thought I was attracted to the bad boy because they seemed to be the only type of guy who was attracted to me. Once I re-evaluated WHY they were attracted to me, I realized the issue was within myself, not them (although they've got issues of their own too of course).
One thing I'm looking forward to is being able to do a follow-up post after Josh and I get married. I'll spare you the details of our future sex life, but I am excited to share the things that made waiting so special. One thing I know for sure is our wedding night will be less about the actual act of sex, and more about being naked for the first time together, seeing each other's bodies for the first time, spending the night in the same bed, waking up to one another (bad breath and all), and giggling with one another like teenagers who've never "done it" before. You see, when you spend so much time getting to know a person on a friendship level, and only being able to express your love for that person by acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, appropriate physical touch, and appropriate gifts, you get to know who they are on a deeper level than any physical or chemical connection can provide. The physical chemistry within marriage will be present simply because the emotional connection has been established throughout the dating relationship, if tended to properly.
If you think about it, even if you had sex once a day for the rest of your life, it's still such a small fraction of the actual time you will be spending with the person you marry. So make sure the emphasis is on your friendship, not your sexual chemistry. Because trust me, if you don't even LIKE the person you're with, chances are you won't have a desire to sleep with them after a certain point, no matter how good looking he or she is. Don't wait until marriage just because someone told you to. Wait until marriage because it will be worth it.
> > Our love story is about 5 years long but our purpose for each other was revealed about a year ago. We met each other while at my Universities cook out on June 24th 2009. I met his mom through the university at the president's office where she worked. She said to Craig you've got to meet these twins that attend the school. The connection was instant over a game of Connect Four between Craig and I. Craig attended Shaw University and I attended Saint Augustine's University. Then one day a man came to my college to put on a Sunday Service. He needed singers to add to his praise and worship team. Without any prior knowledge of knowing me, he hand picked me out of a group of students. This man happend to be Craig's uncle, who is now our pastor. To my surprise that Sunday, Craig was there operating the sound booth. With many years of friendship, nothing ever happened between us. We knew we were attracted to each other, but our friendship stayed the same. Whenever I needed him for help especially through failed relationships, he was always there. Whenever he wanted to have dinner or go out we did. Craig was the protection I didn't realize I had. Over the years we would lose and gain conciousness of our relationship by doing what we loved to do best; going to the movies. On July 20th, 2014 while I was out enjoying the night with some of my girlfriends I ran into Craig. I even caught myself trying to avoid him. He as well did too, but it didnt work. When he approached me, we talked and right then and there he finally told me how he felt all these years. At this time I did not want to date. I stopped focusing on relationships and wanted to focus strongly on God and trying to get through my fathers passing. When I thought I would push him away, I didn't. My response to him was "what took you so long?" His response to me was, "God dealt with me in the men's bathroom", and I laughed. That night we became inseparable. We knew how important It was to wait for marriage. We knew that God ordained our paths to cross that night unlike many others. All these years we realized once we made the decision to become one, we would be walking in our purpose with other. August 15th, 2015 is our wedding. While many may think we're rushing, we're thinking it's been too long! God had my Husband find me once I stayed focus on his purpose for me, and I didn't derail from it. When you obey and wait on the Lord, the gifts are rewarding in numbers greater than money. I am so happy that we have listened to God and followed his orders and we pray that our testimony reaches many others.
Although it seems far fetched, Nick and I actually met originally in kindergarten in Huntsville, AL! We were in different classes but became friends as we played in after school care at West Mastin Lake Elementary School. We stayed connected and even had the same third grade teacher! However, after third grade Nick moved to another school across town and I moved 3 hours away after 5th grade. So, we lost touch!
But, in 2005, we met again but this time it was on the campus of UAB. We had both chosen to attend UAB as a second choice and although I had seen him around campus and noticed how familiar he looked I could never put my finger on how I knew him. Second semester of freshman year, we ended up meeting through a mutual friend at a campus bible study. Although we had met, neither of us could determine why the other looked so familiar. This went on until Nick noticed an old, oversized elementary school t-shirt I decided to lounge in one night as we hung out with a group of friends in the dorm. He looked at me and said, “You’re the girl with the pigtails!” Not knowing what he meant, I responded “what!?”. He began to explain that we had attended West Mastin Lake at the same time and he only remembered me because of the many pigtails I wore!
From that point, we became really good friends. We were such good friends until on Valentine’s Day we decided to hang out together and just kick it. Or so I thought. Nick had asked me the week before Valentine’s Day if I had any plans and if I would be interested in hanging out. Thinking that he meant in a group setting with the rest of our close friends, I told him that I would ask the others and get back with him. However, once he responded with “you can if you want to” I understood that he was asking me to do more than just “hang out”. He wanted to take me on a date for Valentine’s Day!
Since we were such good friends and I enjoyed his company (and was secretly interested as well) I accepted his request and we went out. Because we were late planning everything IHOP was the only restaurant not packed so we ended up there. We spent the night laughing and connecting the dots of our childhoods. I really had a good time and was growing increasingly interested. We concluded the night by hanging out at the dorm with some friends. I felt the date went well but wasn’t sure if it was the right timing for me to be in a relationship so I really didn’t pursue anything further. We talked on the phone and hung out in groups but that was pretty much where it ended. However, I what didn’t know was that Nick still had me on his mind.
Towards the end of the semester as I was preparing for finals, Nick called me and began complimenting my dedication and diligence to my schoolwork. I accepted the compliments but really didn’t think much of it since in my mind that was why I was at UAB in the first place! But, he continued and of course I received until one day he decided to surprise me with a reward for all of my hard work. While in my room studying for finals one evening, Nick appeared at my door with a rose, a scented candle, a Christian R&B mix CD, and a handwritten note of how proud of me he was. I couldn’t believe it. Although I was really appreciative, I felt it was time for us to have a conversation. As I stated, I wasn’t sure that it was in God’s timing then for me to be in a relationship and I had always been against toying with other’s emotions. For that reason, I made it a priority to confirm that fact with the Holy Spirit and let Nick know where I presently stood. Although I liked him, I had to do what I was led to do. So, that night I called him and told him that although I appreciated his note and gestures I wanted to make sure that we were on the same page. I told him that at that moment I didn’t believe I had a peace about dating and because I didn’t want him to feel toyed with I want to tell him this then. Needless to say, he was not happy with me. He actually responded very solemnly. My emotions towards him dwindled based upon the direction I had gotten from God for us to remain friends. We talked more seldom after that but still remained friends.
Fast forward a little over a year, Nick and I began to reconnect as close friends. We began talking more when we found ourselves in group settings and learning more about each other. Our group of friends had a practice of holding each other accountable and through this process we began to get to know each other even more.
As summer semester began and I prepared to serve another summer as a Resident Assistant, I asked Nick to help me move since he was the only guy friend I had left in Birmingham for the summer. He agreed to help me move and we talked more that day than ever before (and flirted a little too ☺)! But this time something was different for me. As my emotions connected to him again I seemed to have an overwhelming peace about him. This continued throughout the beginning of the summer. However, since I had rejected him the first time he initially was very closed to even the overt hints I dropped. But, after awhile he began to flirt back and it was apparent where we desired this growing friendship to go. Once he officially asked me if I was interested in taking our friendship to the next level, we begin to actively pray about timing together. We felt directed to spend more time in the friendship stage while recruiting the prayers and guidance of our parents and mentors. So, for two months that’s exactly what we did. We even set boundaries as to how much time we would spend together considering we knew how interested we were in each other.
After two months, we gained a peace about moving forward and on July 18, 2007 we became a couple! Whew! What a journey! But now that we were here, we knew it was even more vital for us to set physical boundaries in addition to heightening our spiritual connection. So, we set boundaries specifying things like how late at night he would be in my dormroom and that we would abstain from sexual intercourse and any physical interaction that could lead to it. We felt, at this point, that kissing was okay but stated that we would stop before it took us too far. These boundaries served us well until I received a book from my mentor called “And the Bride Wore White”. This book explained the importance of purity and challenged the reader do whatever it took to achieve it. One specific challenge was to go one step higher than what seemed suitable for a Christian. Since I thought kissing was as far as one should go, I was challenged to remove this from our relationship. Although I loved our kissing sessions, the fact remained that they definitely made if more difficult for us to stay pure. Nick wasn’t happy initially about my new boundary but he later agreed and we implemented it into our relationship.
We used boundaries such as our no kissing rule, prayer, accountability from mentors, and our ability to run from temptation (lol…the struggle is real!) to save ourselves until marriage. We dated from July 2007 until Nick proposed on May 21st 2011 and then we married on June 30,2012. Through God’s grace, practical application of His Word, and accountability of parents/mentors we jumped the threshold of our hotel room at Ross Bridge having resisted temptation and able to present our most precious gifts to each other for the first time.
But, in 2005, we met again but this time it was on the campus of UAB. We had both chosen to attend UAB as a second choice and although I had seen him around campus and noticed how familiar he looked I could never put my finger on how I knew him. Second semester of freshman year, we ended up meeting through a mutual friend at a campus bible study. Although we had met, neither of us could determine why the other looked so familiar. This went on until Nick noticed an old, oversized elementary school t-shirt I decided to lounge in one night as we hung out with a group of friends in the dorm. He looked at me and said, “You’re the girl with the pigtails!” Not knowing what he meant, I responded “what!?”. He began to explain that we had attended West Mastin Lake at the same time and he only remembered me because of the many pigtails I wore!
From that point, we became really good friends. We were such good friends until on Valentine’s Day we decided to hang out together and just kick it. Or so I thought. Nick had asked me the week before Valentine’s Day if I had any plans and if I would be interested in hanging out. Thinking that he meant in a group setting with the rest of our close friends, I told him that I would ask the others and get back with him. However, once he responded with “you can if you want to” I understood that he was asking me to do more than just “hang out”. He wanted to take me on a date for Valentine’s Day!
Since we were such good friends and I enjoyed his company (and was secretly interested as well) I accepted his request and we went out. Because we were late planning everything IHOP was the only restaurant not packed so we ended up there. We spent the night laughing and connecting the dots of our childhoods. I really had a good time and was growing increasingly interested. We concluded the night by hanging out at the dorm with some friends. I felt the date went well but wasn’t sure if it was the right timing for me to be in a relationship so I really didn’t pursue anything further. We talked on the phone and hung out in groups but that was pretty much where it ended. However, I what didn’t know was that Nick still had me on his mind.
Towards the end of the semester as I was preparing for finals, Nick called me and began complimenting my dedication and diligence to my schoolwork. I accepted the compliments but really didn’t think much of it since in my mind that was why I was at UAB in the first place! But, he continued and of course I received until one day he decided to surprise me with a reward for all of my hard work. While in my room studying for finals one evening, Nick appeared at my door with a rose, a scented candle, a Christian R&B mix CD, and a handwritten note of how proud of me he was. I couldn’t believe it. Although I was really appreciative, I felt it was time for us to have a conversation. As I stated, I wasn’t sure that it was in God’s timing then for me to be in a relationship and I had always been against toying with other’s emotions. For that reason, I made it a priority to confirm that fact with the Holy Spirit and let Nick know where I presently stood. Although I liked him, I had to do what I was led to do. So, that night I called him and told him that although I appreciated his note and gestures I wanted to make sure that we were on the same page. I told him that at that moment I didn’t believe I had a peace about dating and because I didn’t want him to feel toyed with I want to tell him this then. Needless to say, he was not happy with me. He actually responded very solemnly. My emotions towards him dwindled based upon the direction I had gotten from God for us to remain friends. We talked more seldom after that but still remained friends.
Fast forward a little over a year, Nick and I began to reconnect as close friends. We began talking more when we found ourselves in group settings and learning more about each other. Our group of friends had a practice of holding each other accountable and through this process we began to get to know each other even more.
As summer semester began and I prepared to serve another summer as a Resident Assistant, I asked Nick to help me move since he was the only guy friend I had left in Birmingham for the summer. He agreed to help me move and we talked more that day than ever before (and flirted a little too ☺)! But this time something was different for me. As my emotions connected to him again I seemed to have an overwhelming peace about him. This continued throughout the beginning of the summer. However, since I had rejected him the first time he initially was very closed to even the overt hints I dropped. But, after awhile he began to flirt back and it was apparent where we desired this growing friendship to go. Once he officially asked me if I was interested in taking our friendship to the next level, we begin to actively pray about timing together. We felt directed to spend more time in the friendship stage while recruiting the prayers and guidance of our parents and mentors. So, for two months that’s exactly what we did. We even set boundaries as to how much time we would spend together considering we knew how interested we were in each other.
After two months, we gained a peace about moving forward and on July 18, 2007 we became a couple! Whew! What a journey! But now that we were here, we knew it was even more vital for us to set physical boundaries in addition to heightening our spiritual connection. So, we set boundaries specifying things like how late at night he would be in my dormroom and that we would abstain from sexual intercourse and any physical interaction that could lead to it. We felt, at this point, that kissing was okay but stated that we would stop before it took us too far. These boundaries served us well until I received a book from my mentor called “And the Bride Wore White”. This book explained the importance of purity and challenged the reader do whatever it took to achieve it. One specific challenge was to go one step higher than what seemed suitable for a Christian. Since I thought kissing was as far as one should go, I was challenged to remove this from our relationship. Although I loved our kissing sessions, the fact remained that they definitely made if more difficult for us to stay pure. Nick wasn’t happy initially about my new boundary but he later agreed and we implemented it into our relationship.
We used boundaries such as our no kissing rule, prayer, accountability from mentors, and our ability to run from temptation (lol…the struggle is real!) to save ourselves until marriage. We dated from July 2007 until Nick proposed on May 21st 2011 and then we married on June 30,2012. Through God’s grace, practical application of His Word, and accountability of parents/mentors we jumped the threshold of our hotel room at Ross Bridge having resisted temptation and able to present our most precious gifts to each other for the first time.
November 2012 was the start of my relationship with my husband. Before dating we were friends. We met my freshman year in college through mutual friends and we stayed connected. Even after me transferring to a school closer to home, our long-distance relationship made us closer than ever.
We both lost our virginity earlier than we both expected. We both “thought” we were in love when we engaged in pre-marital sex. We both said that if we could take our virginity back we would. At the age we lost our virginity we didn’t understand the importance of our virginity and how precious our bodies were to God. We also weren’t as close to God as we are now. As we both have grown older we understand the importance of celibacy and why God wants his people to save their bodies for marriage. No one will appreciate you like your husband/wife will.
When we decided to embark on this journey together we knew that we wanted something different. We wanted to do things the right way this time, prior too we had been doing things our way, not God’s way when it came to relationships. We wanted to start over, repent and give our bodies back to God. We didn’t want this relationship to be anything like the other relationships we had. We were both in a place where growing closer to God was our main focus. So we chose to abstain from sex because we wanted to please God with our relationship. We both knew that we would one day be husband and wife, and we didn't want to contaminate what God was doing in each of our lives. September 7, 2013 we were two broke college students engaged and planning our wedding. God provided and we were blessed to have our marriage ceremony December 21, 2013. I was blessed to find a man who seen my value and waited until marriage before we engaged in sex. Now we are happily married! It’s a blessing to unite with the one God created just for you.
D’Audrea Peoples-Smith
We both lost our virginity earlier than we both expected. We both “thought” we were in love when we engaged in pre-marital sex. We both said that if we could take our virginity back we would. At the age we lost our virginity we didn’t understand the importance of our virginity and how precious our bodies were to God. We also weren’t as close to God as we are now. As we both have grown older we understand the importance of celibacy and why God wants his people to save their bodies for marriage. No one will appreciate you like your husband/wife will.
When we decided to embark on this journey together we knew that we wanted something different. We wanted to do things the right way this time, prior too we had been doing things our way, not God’s way when it came to relationships. We wanted to start over, repent and give our bodies back to God. We didn’t want this relationship to be anything like the other relationships we had. We were both in a place where growing closer to God was our main focus. So we chose to abstain from sex because we wanted to please God with our relationship. We both knew that we would one day be husband and wife, and we didn't want to contaminate what God was doing in each of our lives. September 7, 2013 we were two broke college students engaged and planning our wedding. God provided and we were blessed to have our marriage ceremony December 21, 2013. I was blessed to find a man who seen my value and waited until marriage before we engaged in sex. Now we are happily married! It’s a blessing to unite with the one God created just for you.
D’Audrea Peoples-Smith